Welcome back to another Motivational Monday post! I hope that you are all having a great Monday! (Hopefully anyway!) and if you aren’t then, I hope that this post cheers you up a bit!
This isn’t going to be like my usual Motivational Monday Posts though, I wanted to just do a bit more of a chatty/ discussion type post today because a lot has happened recently that really got me thinking.
So, recently I was with a couple of my friends and we were all just chatting about the most random things and then we came to the subject of being “pretty” and at that point I fell silent, because I didn’t exactly agree with what they were saying but I didn’t know what I could say to explain what I was thinking either.
And that’s what I wanted to talk about in this post.
Beauty is something that is universal (and over the past few years it has become quite a controversial topic) but sometimes, I think that it all just does not make any sense. Being pretty, Having to look and behave a certain way in order to follow a standard.
Being a teen and being exposed to the media and the online world isn’t something that you can really avoid.Unfortunately with all the good things online, bad things follow as well. Things like stereotypes and always having the need to look a certain way, wear certain brands and be a certain type of person. Just always having to fit within a label.
And the worst part is that it’s never announced out loud. It’s just something that forms within every mindset and it tends to affect people in different ways.
There are always these articles in magazines telling you to be yourself and no one will judge you, but then the very next week, the same magazine goes about telling everyone that you simply must wear this and you most definitely shouldn’t be wearing that if you want to be pretty or beautiful.
But that’s just not what beauty really is about. It’s not what it symbolizes and it’s not what it stands for. Beauty is more than what you are wearing and if it’s the ‘Brand of the Season’ or not. It’s not about looking a certain way or having the right hair or clothes. Its so much more than that.
Beauty is something that you can’t always see. It’s within all of us. Sometimes it just takes us longer to find it.
That person you saw on the streets yesterday? The one who looked helpless and desperate for money? That person is beautiful. Why? Because he doesn’t want the money for himself. He wants it for his family. He wants to see a smile on his daughter’s face. He wants to raise his son in a better way than his father raised him. He just wants a better life for them. Not for him. For them.
True beauty is being kind. Being caring. Being unselfish. Being loving. Giving a helping hand. Offering a smile to someone who needs it, even if it’s the smallest thing that you could do.
And that is what I think being beautiful really is all about. Being human. And being compassionate. Having a good heart. Because in the end that’s all that truly matters.
If you really think about it, You aren’t going to look the same in about 70 years, are you? and is all of this really going to matter? In about a year or two, the “ideal standard of beauty’ is going to change anyway.
So don’t torture yourself. STOP comparing yourself and your ideas to other people’s. You never know, they might wish they had something that you have. And comparing yourself isn’t really going to make you feel good about yourself. You are absolutely wonderful just the way you are. No one is perfect but in the end, being perfect is all just a myth anyway.
Being beautiful. Truly beautiful on the other hand isn’t a myth. It’s completely real. And YOU are one of those rare, beautiful people!
Fashion is something that I love. It’s something that I genuinely enjoy doing and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. It’s just like any other passion like reading or even blogging.
It’s just the ‘stereotypes’ that we somehow unconsciously adopt that is kind of scary. I mean if every person in the world looked exactly the same, then what is the point? What would make us all so unique?
I think that’s where courage comes in. Being brave doesn’t always necessarily mean that you have to do something massive. It could be something like accepting yourself for who you are and choosing to become a better person or even standing up for what you believe in. Every single act makes you brave. And that is something else that makes you beautiful.
It doesn’t even have to be with your words but also with your actions. Choosing to wear the hijab to increase your faith, although you are afraid of what people might say or do is also another form of courage.
With these thoughts in mind, I decided to take the plunge and do something I had never done before, and just talk about it. I wanted to stand up for something I believed in. Just like all of my heroes had done. It wasn’t anything massive-but like I said, it doesn’t have to be.
I decided to talk to my entire class about what had been running through my head since that fateful conversation. My mum was the first one to tell me to go for it. And I did.
Sometimes, it isn’t easy to stand up to people and speak up. But it went quite well and it was just an amazing feeling after I was done, and my friends were so supportive of it all. And now being able to blog about it as well is just like a dream come true as well!
So, what I want to say is- just go for it! Be yourself. Do what you love doing! And never, ever be afraid to brave. It’s never easy but it’s always worth it.
Thank you all so much for reading!